An individual is like a puzzle: they are made up of pieces, each one denoting an experience, an emotion, a belief, a goal. As an individual grows, these pieces begin to join: they shift, change in form and location, some grow and others become so small they simply fill gaps.
If one pays attention, the moment(s) certain pieces of the puzzle come together, can be noted.
A person (more often than not) decides which pieces get shared, which are hidden and which they mold to make themselves a better (not necessarily different) completed puzzle.
There’s a fine line; what you want and what you need